Week 19
Nine Secondary Steps to Nothing
“Apart from me, you can do nothing.” – John
15:5
If we were to list in reverse order the top
10 responses to God’s will/plan/call for our lives, most of us would be motivated
to give a good effort to 2 thru 10 on the list – that is, if we were hurting
enough, and especially if we were persuaded the result would be health and
happiness. A sample list would be the following:
10. Love (serve) your neighbor / Forgive
9. Give time and money to good causes
8. Get education / Prepare for life’s
vocation
7. Pray at meals and at bedtime
6. Study the Bible / Attend church
5. Budget finances / Pay cash for purchases
4. Get sufficient sleep
3. Exercise daily
2. Eat a healthy diet
The hardest challenge, however, as I have
determined from counseling and also my own personal experience, would be
response to number one - which is to
schedule the same time daily (at least 30-60 minutes) for Scripture reading (in
order to hear God), confession of need, prayer, and quiet time worship (in
order to experience and manifest Christ).
And yet, this first response is many times
more essential and productive, in terms of longevity and quality of life
(health and happiness), than the other nine responses combined.
“I consider everything a loss compared to
the surpassing greatness of knowing (experiencing) Christ.” – Philippians 3:8
“For what human effort was powerless to do,
God did.” –Romans 8:3
DonLoy Whisnant/The Grace Perspective 12E11
Healing: The Outcome of Accepting Provisions, Not an Event in Answer to Prayer
God's plan for our renewal is like a seed,
so we can expect the process to take a while. That’s because, healing and
recovery is not a future event but an ongoing "sowing and reaping"
process which starts the moment we begin to include God's provisions into our
lives. The most critical provision we must include is the Life of
Christ which flows into our inner
being as we take extended time daily to sit quietly before him with an open
Bible for Scripture reading, confession of need, prayer, and worship.
DonLoy Whisnant/The Grace Perspective 12E10
DonLoy Whisnant/The Grace Perspective 12E10
Holy Incentives for the Husband’s
Investment at Home
Husbands are appropriately motivated for
the investment they make in their homes in the following ways (in descending
order):
1.
The call
of God;
2.
Personal
met needs;
3.
(resulting
in) Competence, enablement;
4.
(most
essentially) The love of Christ in him for others;
5.
(so
that) Others (their health needs) matter;
6.
Burden
for their unmet needs;
7.
Opportunity
given them by an open door; and
8.
The recovery
of those they serve.
DonLoy Whisnant/The Grace Perspective 12E09
Emergency Support: A Sometimes Essential
Solution
Sometimes people hurt so badly that the
most immediate need they have is for emergency care to save their lives. Support
for learning how to experience God would not be their most urgent need
(although trusting Christ’s death on the cross as their only hope for going to
Heaven would certainly be).
For example, someone who has been run over
by a truck may be near death and in such pain they might not be able to
comprehend or even hear the words spoken to them – the same as someone
devastated by emotional hurt.
For this reason, GracePoint steps back so
that the EMT folks can do what they do with the hope we will have an
opportunity at a later time to provide hurting people support for the choices they
will need to make which will increase and establish them in long-term health.
DonLoy Whisnant/The Grace Perspective 12E08
An Expectation for Exactness, an Extreme Downside
of the Melancholy Disposition
The Melancholy temperament type is hard to
please. Melancholies fuss about things that are out of place or not up to
standard - for example, the quality of products or services they purchase. Their
need for exactness is so intense that only quality products and services can meet
the need. It is a valid, inborn trait. (The world needs some folks like that,
you know!)
Melancholies also tend to fuss about behavior.
But God can transform their hearts so that they grieve more about people’s
brokenness than they fuss about their behavior.
An extreme downside of this temperament is
to reject without reason. It is not a rejection based in conviction but in
arrogance and anger and sometimes ignorance. It stunts growth and, worse, when
that rejection is of God’s leadership for their lives, it results in increased
brokenness. This is information we share with counselees to support them for
understanding their need to experience Christ daily so that the heart he has
for the Father can increasingly be ours also.
DonLoy Whisnant/The Grace Perspective 12E07
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